I wanted to make space so I had room to live my life with clearer intention, laughter, and healing. I wanted daydreams of future wins and perfect haircuts. I wanted a whole me represented not only in my mirror but also in my mind and in my home. I wanted to get to the work of living and creating in such an enthusiastic way that I’d forget the days when I was too afraid to take the first step forward.
Read MoreWork better, faster, harder, stronger. January is a month filled with new year's resolutions designed to prey on our insecurities. When you’re a woman, the world makes sure you’re well aware of how you measure up (or don’t). In this column, Sad Girls Lens I aim to draw parallels between our blog themes and the intersections of mental health, femme identities, and film. This month’s theme (un)manifest destiny spoke to me and it said, “take a breath.” Sadly, the rest of the world is not likely to be on our sad girl level of enlightenment.
Read MoreFrom #FreeTheNipple to #MeToo, online advocacy has proven it is a force to be reckoned with-- no matter your opinion on hashtag activism, it's undeniable that the reach of social media not only connects people like never before but also passes the megaphone to communities that have never had access to influential public platforms. Right now it’s in part where the newest wave of this generation’s feminism is going down, and sex positivity is a huge part of it.
Read MoreFor some fat women, the skinny versions of us dominate our brain space. If we looked like them, we could get any job, enter any relationship, and basically achieve all of our dreams like that. If only we could consistently count our calories and make it to the gym a few times a week, skinny us could emerge.
Read MoreBut it's no secret that by and large, the Black community primarily identifies as Christian. And though that’s not inherently problematic, both the Christian and Black community have tumultuous relationships with black women, often demonizing our very existence as both a black person and a woman. As a result, the fight to take up space in the black church is a strenuous battle against the prejudices that come with our identities.
Read MoreAfter scrolling myself into a dark abyss I was left with a million more thoughts. My mind felt like a ball of yarn that was trying to unravel itself and outside voices had their hands on the end of the strings. I was being pulled by the voices and opinions of people that I didn’t know and by those I did.
Read MoreThere are many things we are called to share this life with others our passion, kind words, laughter, a smile or ears to listen. As we give ourselves the space to heal, rewrite our story and develop a true understanding of who we are within we can offer this to our peers. Thus making the world a more beautiful place to live.
Read MoreI truly hate talking (or writing) about my sex life. That’s because there barely is one. But sometimes when something makes you cringe, it’s worth investigating. And so here I am, telling you all about my somewhat sad relationship with sex, with hopes that maybe this year things will change.
Read MoreJanuary 1st is not just the start of a new year - it’s the start of a new decade. Thinking about it, where were you ten years ago - mentally, emotionally, spiritually? I ask to assure you that it’s not about where you’ve been or what you’ve been through, but about how you got through it and where you’re going.
Read MoreIf we were taking lessons from the earth, winter would be a time of pacing yourself and not overextending your limited resources. Even though most of us are no longer tending to land we are tending to social obligations during the holiday season that harbors mental and financial strain. This month’s tarot reading focuses on giving us information about how to pace ourselves for the new year.
Read MoreToo often we find ourselves moved by the mundane responsibilities that we need to accomplish to live. You know working to pay the bills, getting lost in taking care of necessitates while giving no thought to getting where we want to be. Our truth becomes a whisper that we barely hear until it’s screaming at us in a circumstance we didn’t want to happen. 2020 is a wake up for us all!
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