Work better, faster, harder, stronger. January is a month filled with new year's resolutions designed to prey on our insecurities. When you’re a woman, the world makes sure you’re well aware of how you measure up (or don’t). In this column, Sad Girls Lens I aim to draw parallels between our blog themes and the intersections of mental health, femme identities, and film. This month’s theme (un)manifest destiny spoke to me and it said, “take a breath.” Sadly, the rest of the world is not likely to be on our sad girl level of enlightenment.
Read MoreImagination is a key component in manifesting the reality we want to live in. Many of us know what we don’t want, but we can’t say for sure what we do want. Are we thinking about it? Are we envisioning it? How can we bring it to life if we never give it any? Manifesting the world we want to see requires us being the change we want to see and staying true to that vision regardless of if others disagree.
Read MoreFrom #FreeTheNipple to #MeToo, online advocacy has proven it is a force to be reckoned with-- no matter your opinion on hashtag activism, it's undeniable that the reach of social media not only connects people like never before but also passes the megaphone to communities that have never had access to influential public platforms. Right now it’s in part where the newest wave of this generation’s feminism is going down, and sex positivity is a huge part of it.
Read MoreFor some fat women, the skinny versions of us dominate our brain space. If we looked like them, we could get any job, enter any relationship, and basically achieve all of our dreams like that. If only we could consistently count our calories and make it to the gym a few times a week, skinny us could emerge.
Read MoreBut it's no secret that by and large, the Black community primarily identifies as Christian. And though that’s not inherently problematic, both the Christian and Black community have tumultuous relationships with black women, often demonizing our very existence as both a black person and a woman. As a result, the fight to take up space in the black church is a strenuous battle against the prejudices that come with our identities.
Read MoreAfter scrolling myself into a dark abyss I was left with a million more thoughts. My mind felt like a ball of yarn that was trying to unravel itself and outside voices had their hands on the end of the strings. I was being pulled by the voices and opinions of people that I didn’t know and by those I did.
Read MoreThere are many things we are called to share this life with others our passion, kind words, laughter, a smile or ears to listen. As we give ourselves the space to heal, rewrite our story and develop a true understanding of who we are within we can offer this to our peers. Thus making the world a more beautiful place to live.
Read MoreI truly hate talking (or writing) about my sex life. That’s because there barely is one. But sometimes when something makes you cringe, it’s worth investigating. And so here I am, telling you all about my somewhat sad relationship with sex, with hopes that maybe this year things will change.
Read MoreJanuary 1st is not just the start of a new year - it’s the start of a new decade. Thinking about it, where were you ten years ago - mentally, emotionally, spiritually? I ask to assure you that it’s not about where you’ve been or what you’ve been through, but about how you got through it and where you’re going.
Read MoreIf we were taking lessons from the earth, winter would be a time of pacing yourself and not overextending your limited resources. Even though most of us are no longer tending to land we are tending to social obligations during the holiday season that harbors mental and financial strain. This month’s tarot reading focuses on giving us information about how to pace ourselves for the new year.
Read MoreToo often we find ourselves moved by the mundane responsibilities that we need to accomplish to live. You know working to pay the bills, getting lost in taking care of necessitates while giving no thought to getting where we want to be. Our truth becomes a whisper that we barely hear until it’s screaming at us in a circumstance we didn’t want to happen. 2020 is a wake up for us all!
Read MoreIn this time, we are being called to feel our feelings, allowing ourSelves to be consumed and transformed by them. We are being called to have compassion for ourSelves enough to forgive ourSelves for the ways that maybe we fell short of standards for ourSelves, and to have that same compassion for others. We are being called to forgive-- to free ourSelves of the past pain that has been tethering us to the same narratives, the same lifestyles that we are so tired of and dissatisfied by.
Read MoreWhen I got back home to New York City, I found the movie on demand and watched it from start to finish. One year later, I’m (perhaps dangerously) hooked on these dumb, saccharine, poorly written made-for-TV holiday movies. And I can’t stop watching them.
Read MoreThoughtfully curating your mornings to pour into yourself is greatly beneficial to charging yourself up to tackle the long work day ahead. Think of practicing morning mindfulness as a way to give yourself space between the needs of the world and the needs of yourself.
Read MoreLibra season starts with the Moon in Cancer, giving our emotional Self the power to truly make itself heard, especially with the Full Moon in Aries on October 14th. With Mars starting the season in Virgo, we will be more careful of what we do and how we do it.
Read MoreCreate boundaries, exercise discipline, make the hard decisions, reward yourself responsibly. You deserve that love and care. You deserve that validation— give it to yourself. Release any attachments that have been holding you back.
Read MoreMaybe CBD will calm your anxiety. Or maybe it’ll improve your sleep; even better, it might put the happy to your depression. Nonetheless, the fan-favorite “chill pill” has made its way to every table talk regarding mental health.
Read MoreThe glow goddesses of Base Butter, sat down to chat with Sad Girls Club about the balance between entrepreneurship and self-care, finding your co-founder in crime and why sometimes, together is better.
Read MoreVenus entering Leo on July 28th reminds us that the heart wants what the heart wants, and we no longer have the desire to hide it. Don’t overthink it; don’t minimize it. Be loud and proud about your desires.
Read MoreJuly kicks off with a new moon in Cancer on July 2, a cardinal water sign best known for its propensity to feel deeply, nurture freely, crave safety, and retreat into its crab shell when that sense of safety is threatened.
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